Pro se mediation is becoming a hot option for couples wanting to divorce without using lawyers.
One need view only a few TV shows or movies centered on the law to glean that society doesn’t think highly of most lawyers. In the realm of literature, the attorney-disparaging statements of Charles Dickens’ and Shakespeare’s characters are quite biting. And depending on which version of the Bible you read, we were being bashed even back then. Let’s not even get started on bad lawyer jokes.
However, good lawyers are occasionally represented in books and movies. Their kind and exemplary work make you feel better about life. Valiant warriors still exist! And I am here to tell you, these kind of lawyers do exist in reality. I consider myself to be one of them.
Notwithstanding the reality that the “good guys” really are out there to hire, the idea of “lawyering up” in anticipation of a divorce is distasteful to some couples. Many fear that the addition of lawyers to the divorce process will create needless conflict and that legal fees will become unthinkably expensive. This fear is not without merit. If you choose the wrong lawyers – those that like to fight – an expensive battle is not out of the realm of possibility.
So, where does that leave the couple who wants to divorce with respect and cooperation, doesn’t want lawyers, but does need help in working out the particulars of the divorce? A good option is “pro se” mediation. The term “pro se” is fancy lawyer talk used to describe a party to a legal cause of action who is unrepresented by legal counsel.
As your pro se divorce mediator, I will serve a neutral role, helping you and your spouse come to mutually acceptable agreements. Although I am a lawyer, I will not offer legal advice in this mediation setting but instead will help educate and guide you through the particulars that must be addressed – from parenting plans, to equitable distribution, to support, and anything else that might be applicable to your situation.
If I have piqued your curiosity, and you think this type of mediation might be a good fit for you and your spouse, I would be honored to be of service. Please give me a call or contact me through my firm’s contact form, and we will get back to you quickly. I look forward to meeting you and your spouse to discuss your options in an initial consultation.